Devotional for the Bridal shower of
Mary Beth Wright
August 25,2012
We came here today to honor Mary Beth
and shower her with our gifts and love.
As I was thinking what to say, I
thought that the best gift we can give her is our continued
prayers for her.
Cindy, as a parent, you know that
parenting never ends! It doesn't matter how old she is whether, 2,12,
22, or 32, she is still your child. This summer my daughter, Julie,
who is 25 years old, was living with us. Her boyfriend was here,
also. I asked them,” Do you kids want to go with us out to
eat.” or something to that effect. Her boyfriend said, “Kids?
You called us kids?”
(I think he was worried that we didn't consider him an adult. So I
told him how George's mom said to me as I was leaving her home, when
I was in my mid thirties or forties, and had 5 children,
“ You kids hurry and come
back now.” At that time I realized, we were still kids to
her, no matter our age!
So once a parent, always a parent, and
we still think like a parent, We think we can still “fix
things” for our child. Once our daughter is married, she is no
longer under our authority, but rather under the authority and
protection of her husband.
I am going to quote Stormie Omartian
from her book, The Power of a Praying Parent:
“It's
not easy to be the parent of an adult child. That's because it's
difficult to know what and
what not to do for
them. When do you need to step in? When have you done too much? When
are your expectations too high or too low?......” etc. etc.
She goes on to say:
“I
have found that only God can give you the wisdom you need about those
things. And He will give it to you when you ask for it. But first you
have to understand and believe that when you pray about your adult
child, God will hear
and answer. That's the way He set it up. Prayer is not
telling God what to do. Prayer is partnering with God to see that His
will is done. You don't have to fully understand what God's will is
in order to pray that His will be done.
You also have to
believe that while you cannot change anything in your adult child's
life, God can change everything.”
Stormie Omartian
goes on to say that if we have dedicated our child to God, then when
they become adults, we need to release them to God. “We no longer
have control over our adult children. We can't make them do what we
want. But by praying, we can help them to hear from God so He can
lead them to do what He wants.” By prayer, “We can help
them stay on the right path so they can rise up to become all they
were created to be.”
So let's remember
God's promise for your adult child's future.
“What God's Word
says about your adult child's future is what He says about your
future too. “I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the
LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and
a hope. Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and
I will listen to you. And you will seek Me and find Me, when
you search for Me with all your heart” (Jeremiah 29:11-13).
Notice the
connection between the promise of a peaceful, hope-filled future and
prayer. Again it is prayer that appropriates the promise. God is
saying that if you seek Him and search for Him with all your heart,
you will find Him and the great future He has for you.”
Mary Beth, we would
encourage you to be a woman of prayer. You will have the strength you
need and the wisdom you need for every situation when you go to God
in fervent prayer.
Stormie Omartian's
book, The Power of a Praying Wife, is an excellent book to use
to help you focus in your prayers for your husband.
I know there is a
lot of advice people will want to give you on marriage but as I was
thinking about what to say, I really don't want to give you advice
but I do want to tell you what I am learning to do in my marriage:
Pray, Laugh, and Be Thankful.
We already
mentioned prayer so let's talk about “laugh.” Proverbs 17:22 says
A merry heart doeth good like medicine.” In the
first year of our marriage, George got mad at me and raised his
voice. I couldn't keep a straight face. I had grown up with a dad who
was a preacher with a booming voice and when he yelled at us girls,
it brought fear! I was also trained as a singer to “project” my
voice so all could hear. So I started laughing and told him that if
he wanted to scare me by yelling he would have to use his diaphragm
and I proceeded to show him how! Needless to say, that made him laugh
and I can honestly say, that he has never raised his voice to me
again in all of the 39 years of marriage.
Having a thankful
heart isn't always easy. But the Bible commands us in 1Thessalonians
5:18 to give thanks in all circumstances.
Philippians 4:8
says whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right,
whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable - if
anything is excellent or praiseworthy, think about such things.
When we change
our”stinkin' thinkin'” and think on these
things, we can't help but have a joyful heart.
It
is so interesting that the three things that came to my mind that I
needed to work on and I wanted to share with you, is summed up in
1Thessalonians 5:16-18 Be
joyful always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances,
for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.
We would now like
to pray for you and your marriage.
First your mom will
pray a prayer of dedication and release into God's hands:
Lord, I rededicate Mary Beth to You.
I pray she will serve You all the days of her life and that she will
glorify You in every way. As long as she lives, I pray she will be
under Your watchful eye. I again release her into Your hands. In
Jesus' name I pray.
Hostesses will pray:
They
would be protected
survive tough times
walk into the future God
has for them.
God would be their Shield and Protector
God would be their Refuge and Strength, a very present
help in trouble.
They would take refuge in the shadow of Your
wings
You know the plans for them,
thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give them a future and a hope.
Run the race in the right way so
they will finish strong and receive the prize You have for them.
Fill them with Your joy and and
peace so that they will abound in hope by the power of the Holy
Spirit.